Wednesday, April 15, 2015

How To Properly Respond to Pregnancy Questions

If you are or have ever been pregnant, you are not surprised by the random questions that absolute strangers ask you in public places. I was actually caught off guard in the beginning but now it is just getting kind of fun. Most of the time I am alone and I enjoy making people feel as uncomfortable as I do. So I have decided I would take some time for those who are newly pregnant, because I want you to be prepared for what is to come.

Below I have put together some fun Q&A's for you because sometimes you are just so caught off guard by how "normal" it is for strangers to approach you and talk to you about the intimate details of your pregnancy. 

"Do you have a birth plan?"
"Yeah. My plan is to eventually give birth to this baby."

"Are you sure it's not twins?"
"Does it count as twins if one is a baby and the other is a dinosaur?"

"Do you know what you are having?"
"Not yet. But we are really hoping it's a baby."

"Are you going to do it all natural?"
"By natural do you mean like in a zen garden surrounded by wildlife?"

"You look like you are just done. When are you due?"
"Done with this conversation maybe. Due several months from now, thanks for the reminder!"

"Oh it's a girl? Are you going to try for a boy next?"
"Well this one is still cooking so I haven't thought about it yet. But if it's another girl can I just give it to you?"

"What does your husband think about you being pregnant?"
"Was I supposed to tell him?"

"Are you planning on breast feeding?"
"Before we start talking about my breasts why don't we have a casual conversation about yours?"

Tuesday, April 7, 2015

24 Weeks

Has it really been 24 weeks? I guess I believe it.
Baby Messmer is the size of a large zucchini. Shes about 1.4 lbs and 12 inches

Weight Gain: Holding steady at an eight pound weight gain. Feeling good. The baby is supposed to be gaining about twice her body weight in the next few weeks, and I can really feel her getting bigger.

How I'm Feeling: Hungry all the time. Some would say I am "nesting" because I am just throwing everything in our house away. I hate clutter even more than I did before (if that's possible) and everything has to have a place. I also have started preparing for my maternity leave at work because there is always work to be done!

Sleep: I don't really know what this is. Gone are the nights with 12 hours of sleep and I don't think I will see them again for a really really long time.
Hormones: Up and down and all around.My husband is a saint. That's all I can really say.

Food: Give me all the food. I have been obsessed with green beans lately but I also really love sandwiches. Plus 50% off Easter candy. Enough said.

Maternity Clothes: I think I am going to live in maternity clothes for the rest of my life. I am digging them. I am looking forward to my first Stitch Fix maternity box here in about a week or so.

Monday, March 30, 2015

23 Weeks

Baby Messmer is the size of an ear of corn. Shes about 1.1 lbs and 11.5 inches

Weight Gain: 8 pound weight gain so far. The emotions of being pregnant give me mixed feelings about my weight gain but usually I am pretty positive about it.

How I'm Feeling: The past week or so has been rough. For some reason I hit a wall. I am so tired all the time. Its almost like the first trimester all over again.

Sleep: Sleep is rare. I think it has to do with not being able to sleep on my stomach anymore. I sleep about an hour or so at a time. Maybe this is why I am so tired?
Hormones: So many hormones. I don't really know what to write here.

Food: I am so hungry that I don't even care what I eat anymore. Although I have been really enjoying sandwiches (toasted for those who are concerned with my eating habits).

Maternity Clothes: I am officially in maternity clothes all the time. I am starting to really enjoy them though! So comfy! My maternity clothes have never felt tight so I can see the appeal to some people.

Monday, March 23, 2015

22 Weeks

Baby is 15 oz. and the size of a papaya

22 weeks of pregnancy. What can I say at this point? I am getting larger everyday and baby has been kicking like she is trying to break a board in my stomach. Sleep gets a tad harder every night. Sometimes I look at my husband, the love of my life, my better half, and think about nicely elbowing him as hard as I can while he happily snores next to me. 

Then she kicks me. How cool is that? It's like a tiny reminder that something great is happening. I might be losing wonderful moments of sleep, but I am gaining precious moments with my daughter. Just a quick change of perspective and something potentially really annoying turns into something great.

The other night I was upset about gaining weight. Something that is quite normal during pregnancy by the way, but of course the constant reminder when I look in the mirror hasn't helped. My charming husband quickly reminds me that pregnancy is beautiful and blah, blah, blah (because my husband is the best). Really I just needed perspective and after some long thought I realized I probably shouldn't body shame myself and my daughter before she is even born. The world is a scary enough place for girls and women so I shouldn't start while she is still growing happily inside me. I should be her safe place.

Maybe it is the 2nd trimester glow. I might turn into a woman who wants this baby to come out ASAP in a few weeks, but right now I can't believe how awesome this has been. So I am being positive and hoping that this happy energy funnels to this baby.

Monday, March 9, 2015

Stay As Long As You Want

Our journey is just about halfway through little one. I feel like I get to know you better every single day. You like burying yourself as low as you can go, which makes the act of standing up very difficult on me but has been a wonderfully perfect reminder that you are still there. I feel your movements, but I am still waiting for that first big kick, the one that will make me think you might be a pretty great soccer player. You like car rides when the music is up as loud as it can go and me and your dad sing, which tells me that we might need to have your hearing checked like super quickly after you are born.

Basically the past 20 weeks have been a roller coaster of emotions but they all come back to one simple thing... we love you so much already. If it is half as fun getting to know you when you are actually here we are anxious as can be. Our hearts are full. We think about you all the time.

Little girl I have to admit, this past 20 weeks have been the best in my life so stay as long as you want. Make yourself comfortable. I'm not going anywhere and I plan to enjoy every moment with you.

Tuesday, February 24, 2015

Bumpdate Week 18

Baby Messmer is the size of a white onion. 5.1 inches long.

Weight Gain: As of my checkup last week, I have gained 2.5 pounds from the beginning of this pregnancy. Sometimes I feel like it is a lot more but I am starting to get used to it.

How I'm Feeling: My energy is back. I would love to be able to go outside but it has been so cold here the past few weeks. No matter what I eat I get heartburn.

Sleep: I sleep between 10-12 hours a night. I like to sleep.

Hormones: Oh the emotions. I told my mom last weekend that if emotional people feel like this all the time I don't know how they can live this way. Basically anything I read on the internet makes me cry. If it involves a dog then you can automatically assume I am done for the rest of the day.

Food: Gimme all the pasta and bread.

Maternity Clothes: My mom and I went on a little road trip shopping expedition a few weeks back and I got two pairs of maternity jeans and I love them! I bought a few tops as well but they are for when it gets a bit warmer out. It has to get warmer, right?

Monday, February 16, 2015

Baby Messmer Is A...

Ok so my weekly bumpdates have been a little behind which is totally my fault... but also not my fault because I am growing a human and  people can't be upset with the girl who is growing a human. Anyway I have been really busy with things like work and enjoying time with my husband before we become a family of 3 so excuse me if sometimes I forget to blog about it.

To give you a little bit of an update I am now what... like 17 weeks pregnant? That is right, I am asking you to tell me. So that's almost halfway. It feels like it has been 17 weeks and not in a good way. Mostly in an I am so bored because it is cold and I never want to leave the house so I am just going to sit here and think about how I am going to be pregnant forever or have a 14 pound baby like the woman on tv. 17 weeks goes by quite slow when your mind is in a weird winter fog place.

Now that we know the sex of our little muchkin at least I can do things like online shop. Or regular shop, which is something me and my mom did over the weekend. I took a half day from work on Friday and we went out of town and spent the weekend shopping and eating junk food in our hotel room while watching trashy tv shows. It was as wonderful as it sounds.

Anyway, if you follow me on any type of social media you know that baby Messmer is a GIRL!

...and we have come up with a name but I am not ready to share it on the blog just yet.

For now I will just let you know that we are happy to have a healthy baby. She is in there doing flips and waving every time we get an ultrasound. Eric and I cannot believe that he is going to live in a house full of women but we both can't wait.

AMG says hello!